I read the four chords and became rather skeptical. Some things weren`t matching, that is, were not as consistent (in my opinion). If I read the last two contributions to the third convention (do not make assumptions) and the second (take nothing personally), I also became scpetical. Well, finally, we come to the fourth convention: always do their best. In other words,... They will unscrew and oppose these agreements. All right! Assuming results are expected, this often leads to disappointments. If you`re sad, you assume that your partner can pick up how you feel and know exactly what to do (i.e. give a hug, make dinner, buy flowers, etc.). If he/she doesn`t do one of those things (your expectations), you get hurt.
All the sadness and drama that you have experienced in your life has been rooted in making assumptions and taking things in person. Don Miguel Ruiz "In all the war of control between people, it`s about making assumptions and taking things personally." The four chords, Chapter 4 Based on the above assumptions, allow you to avoid your deeper feelings related to your negative beliefs about rejection, abandonment, not good enough, etc. If you agree rather than ask questions, avoid confronting these beliefs, so that you can stay in your cozy little fantasy. The second agreement offers readers the opportunity to manage the hurtful treatments of others that they can experience in life. She argues that it is important to have a strong self-concept and not to have to rely on the opinions of others to be satisfied and satisfied with their self-concept. This agreement also allows readers to understand the idea that each individual has a unique vision of the world that changes his or her own perception and that a person`s actions and beliefs are a projection of his or her personal reality.  Ruiz believes that anger, jealousy, envy and even sadness can subside or dissipate as soon as an individual stops taking things in person.  One hypothesis leads to another hypothesis; we jump to conclusions, and we take our story very personally. Then we blame other people, and we usually start clapping to try to justify our assumptions.
Of course, applause distorts a distorted message. In the world of control between people, it`s about making assumptions and taking things in person. Our whole dream of hell is based on that. ... Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions and believe that we are right about the assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to do someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make a hypothesis, because assumptions make us suffer. ... If we do not make assumptions, we can draw our attention to the truth, not to what we think is the truth. So we see life as it is, not as we want to see it. If we do not believe in our own assumptions, the strength of our faith that we have invested in them is ours. And if we recover all the energy we have invested to make assumptions, we can use that energy to create a new dream: our personal sky.
Don`t make any assumptions. Learn more about the fourth chord and friendship! I appreciate your comment. Thank you for your kind words.